In my opinion the most important piece of knowledge that a soldier must have during a battle would and should be common sense, don't shoot your battle partner! A relationship is the very same way. We're in this together, so why do we seem to shoot our Honeys down when we know they are most vulnerable? We get lazy! We get selfish! and we're all guilty! I'll be the first to admit I've shot my battle partner right where it hurts quite a few times. Apologies have been made of course and lots of hugs have been given. But why do we repeatedly shoot our own wounded? It's a fine line between telling someone your feelings are hurt and blaming your entire life's faults upon that one person or even persons, family members even. The simplicity of shutting our mouths and think about what we are about to say before we actually say it is immense! When I take a moment and think about how my words are going to effect the person I love, well that changes everything, when I place others before myself and their feelings above my own, things change. Now, this is not a shut up and suck it up statement. Far from that. Relationships take work, TEAM -work! And when that "team" is taken out of the statement, its just work, work work work! and we all get nowhere. The ones we love, also love us. And when you love someone you let your guard down and when you do that you become vulnerable to hurt and disappointment. And that is sometimes a hard pill to swallow. Life is a long and sometimes hard road, and when we beat down the person who is here to help lift us up, we end up crashing to the ground with them. Our words and actions affect not only that other person but ourselves as well. If two are to become one, and you decide to shoot your honey, you might just as well shoot yourself.
